You have the man and you are wearing the ring, now it’s time to gather up your girls. Choosing your maid of honor and bridesmaids is a bit tricky as it involves a lot of thinking, a lot of emotions, and a lot of tissues for all the tears of joy.
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The bridesmaids serve as your own personal team who will rally behind you, as the bride, every step of the way. From picking out the wedding theme to picking out the songs in your party playlist, they are your go-to people when it comes to all decisions to be made related to the big day itself.
What makes the process of choosing difficult is because many would want to actually be bridesmaids and sadly we can’t make everyone part of that elite team who stands besides you as you say “I do.” The challenge is to pick out your girls as soon as possible so you can get started with the ninety-nine other things left on your list.
First thing’s first, who can be bridesmaids? According to the unwritten rules of society, your bridesmaids can be picked from among your closest family and friends, like:
- Your siblings or your fiance’s siblings
- Your BFFs
- Any female family member that is close to both you and your fiance
- Any of your close girlfriends
- A friend or relative who also got you to be her bridesmaid at her wedding
Next, what are the responsibilities of the bridesmaids? They are in charge of helping you plan your wedding and all other activities related to it: bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc. You will need their honest opinion when it comes to your bridal gown, your ideas for the reception program, and even your wedding cake options. They double the manpower when it comes to inserting invitations in their envelopes and sticking tags onto the wedding favors.
Your bridesmaids must be your dearest companions, who will be willing to take on the extra work and to go on late night chat groups about dress styles and neckline cuts, all just for you. With this in mind, pick your bridesmaids according to their own strengths and availability for the said tasks and succession of events. On the other hand, be prepared that someone might turn down the privilege. Don’t take it personally, it might be because of work or financial concerns so better to thank her for backing out now than making it a huge problem later on near the wedding.
Most important of all, choose with your heart. What is important is you pick the ones which are close to your heart, let go of all the rules and of everything that your mother might say. Of course, drama is simply inevitable when it comes to family gatherings, so there will be a sibling or a cousin who might be offended that they didn’t make the list. It’s okay, you can assign them to other tasks, like the readings, ushering the guests, and other important roles during the day of. Remember that your bridesmaids and the maid of honor are all there for you, so make sure you get to pick those who mean the world to you.